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shazyADME подкинул прекрасноэ. Статья о том, что нужно для счастливого брака. Перевод с английского с сокращениями, в целом близкий к тексту:
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Однако последняя часть "Как развить эмоциональный интеллект"...
Dr. Gottman suspects men who resist their wives influence do so without realizing it. Accepting influence is both a mindset and a skill cultivated by paying attention to your spouse every day. This means building your Love Maps, expressing your fondness and admiration, and accepting bids for connection.
And when conflict happens, the key is to understand your partner’s point of view and be willing to compromise. Do this by identifying your inflexible areas and searching for something both of you can agree to.
For example: Steven understands that Lauren is stressed about having company when the house is a mess. While he may not be able to delay his trip until the next morning, he can push it back to later that evening so he can help her around the house first. Maybe instead of Steven vacuuming and wiping down the counters (typically his task), Lauren could wipe them down in the morning before her friends arrive so Steven could leave a little earlier with his buddies.
Accepting your partner’s influence is a great strategy for gaining more respect, power, and influence. Want to have a happy and stable marriage? Make your commitment to your partner stronger than your commitment to winning. If you do that, your marriage wins.
...внезапно заменена на комментарий некоего российского психолога "Как развить эмоциональный интеллект мужа":
Говорите о своих эмоциях: «я огорчена», «я так рада», «это может обидеть».
Замечайте и отмечайте его эмоции: «ты расстроен», «ты так обрадовался, когда...».
Обращайте его внимание на эмоции людей из вашего окружения.
Не бойтесь проявлять искренние эмоции. Плачьте, если хочется. Смейтесь.
Отлично, чо. Что характерно, перерабатывала (язык не поворачивается сказать "переводила") статью женщина.
Оригинал
Перевод
Однако последняя часть "Как развить эмоциональный интеллект"...
Dr. Gottman suspects men who resist their wives influence do so without realizing it. Accepting influence is both a mindset and a skill cultivated by paying attention to your spouse every day. This means building your Love Maps, expressing your fondness and admiration, and accepting bids for connection.
And when conflict happens, the key is to understand your partner’s point of view and be willing to compromise. Do this by identifying your inflexible areas and searching for something both of you can agree to.
For example: Steven understands that Lauren is stressed about having company when the house is a mess. While he may not be able to delay his trip until the next morning, he can push it back to later that evening so he can help her around the house first. Maybe instead of Steven vacuuming and wiping down the counters (typically his task), Lauren could wipe them down in the morning before her friends arrive so Steven could leave a little earlier with his buddies.
Accepting your partner’s influence is a great strategy for gaining more respect, power, and influence. Want to have a happy and stable marriage? Make your commitment to your partner stronger than your commitment to winning. If you do that, your marriage wins.
...внезапно заменена на комментарий некоего российского психолога "Как развить эмоциональный интеллект мужа":
Говорите о своих эмоциях: «я огорчена», «я так рада», «это может обидеть».
Замечайте и отмечайте его эмоции: «ты расстроен», «ты так обрадовался, когда...».
Обращайте его внимание на эмоции людей из вашего окружения.
Не бойтесь проявлять искренние эмоции. Плачьте, если хочется. Смейтесь.
Отлично, чо. Что характерно, перерабатывала (язык не поворачивается сказать "переводила") статью женщина.
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Date: 2017-02-24 12:42 pm (UTC)